This blog is inspired by a true story.
It has all been told to us; women should be seen and not heard. This is a common public rule taught and embedded in our system from childhood. Some of us take heed and I guess others don’t. Or maybe, unfortunately, the examples they had, were no example at all. Tell me. Why do some women expound on their personal issues loud in public? Not forgetting to add expletives in there. Women have already been deemed as very garrulous or a big – mouthed specie, so why do we then take it a notch further by embarrassing who we represent?
On January 24th, 2012 I was totally embarrassed being a woman sitting among men at a football game. There was a particular young woman, who obviously has a lot of personal relationship issues. Now there is a reason for it being called “personal”. Simply means, all about you (My Definition). She received a phone call and upon answering it, went at it. There were some guys a distance off, who immediately turned at looked at her with scorn. Her mannerisms were of poor taste. They then looked at me, while I was bowing my head in shame. This young lady carried on like this all through the first half, half time and second half of the game. She was even trying to start a battle with another female there, which ignored her entirely. Thank God!!!! Why Why????? was ringing out in my head. This is just one scenario and I am not going to brand all women like this but I’ve seen other things to know there are many women out there who don’t carry themselves as gentlewomen, hence I am taking this opportunity to teach both you and I some etiquette for women.
NB: Etiquette list taken from behavioural professionals.
We often complain that we don’t get good guys but have you ever thought that maybe what you put out is what you going to get in. Yes we’ve heard, what you put you feed your soul with is the very same will emerge but in this case it’s the other way around. If you put “bad” behaviour out there, then you will attract a man who is the epitome of “badness”. I have learnt that who you are is who you attract. There are the rare cases that this does not apply however its is more common. So ladies take a look at this list below of etiquette designed just for you. Things which I am sure will help you become a better person and bring out the true Eagle In You.
List of Etiquette
- A true gentlewoman can be distinguished at first glance. There is a quiet self-possession about her that marks her out from the boisterous. Self-effacement is the rule of good manners.
- A gentlewoman goes quietly along, intent on her own business. She walks quietly through the streets, seeing and hearing nothing that she ought not to see and hear. A good talker should be possessed of much general information, acquired by keen observation, attentive listening, a good memory, and logical habits of thought.
- Simplicity and terseness are characteristics of a well-educated lady. She never uses vulgarisms, flippancy, coarseness, triviality or provocation in her speech. Scandal is the least excusable of all conversational vulgarities.
- A lady is sympathetic, unselfish and animating in her listening. To show any interest in the immediate concerns of people is very complimentary. She must maintain cheerful conversation. Religion and politics should never be introduced into conversation, for they are dangerous subjects to harmony.
- A lady never interrupts the speech of others, nor does she discuss private matters in public.
- A lady avoids all exhibitions of temper before others. Whether grief or joy, emotions should be subdued in public and only allowed full play in private apartments.
- She never talks loudly, or laughs boisterously or does anything to attract the attention of passers-by.
- A lady never forms an acquaintance upon the street, or seeks to attract the attention or admiration of persons of the opposite sex.
- A lady never looks back after anyone in the street, or turns to stare in a public place. She should never walk alone in the street after dark.
- She keeps from contact with her neighbor in public conveyances as much as is possible, never leaning up against another or spreading her arms.