One Hit; That’s it?

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviours that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socio-economic backgrounds and education levels.

Domestic Violence is an everyday inhumane act, occurring all over the world. Even as I am typing now, some woman, some where can be going through the physical process of Domestic Violence. Unfortunately, if we are not faced with this situation ourselves, we don’t think about it. All we know is, we are happy and just give a sympathetic response when we do hear about it. The reality of the situation is though, you can be that woman any day. Things that we don’t expect to ever happen in our lives, have a way of happening and leaving us in the cold because we never mentally prepare for it. Maybe you got in hit once, since being in the relationship. Which brings me to this question.

If you are in a relationship and the man placed his hands on you for the very first time, what will you do? Let’s have a discussion on this one.Leave a response in the comments bar below. You can even share your very own story and help a woman make that first step to walking away from abuse. Take a look at these pictures and to better understand the great need to stop this gruesome act from happening, replace the faces or bodies with your face/body.

Advice: If you are in an abusive relationship or know someone in it. If you see signs of it happening, talk to someone, go to the respective authorities and deal with it immediately. There are Domestic Violence Hot lines all over the world. Call the one close to you and get on it. Don’t wait for tomorrow. It might just be too late.


Reminder: Remember you are beautiful and intelligent in very own way. Don’t let anyone tell you different or exploit you. There is not price to your worth, so stay fab and keep strutting on this earth.


17 thoughts on “One Hit; That’s it?

  1. I think it’s a silent act that is spreading all over the world that is screaming for attention. We tend to overlook the signs because the person within loves that evil motionless person who speak words like fist. Wake up beautiful people……smh!

    • So true. Having life is better than love. Even saying it sounds weird and that’s why people stay. That word love can be very misguiding at times. Sad but true.

  2. I’ve never been a victim of domestic violence, but have been a witness to it (as a child & adult.) No matter how much I have “stepped-in” to help, the abused always takes the abuser’s side. It’s not until the abused is ready to make a change, that they will leave. I had a man literally curse at me once and I dropped him. In my head if he cursed at me, he could become volatile at any point and has no respect for women. For the abused I have come across it’s hard notion for me to walk away from, but until they are ready to change, there is nothing I, nor anyone could do. Now to set a disclaimer, I have definitely shared concern and the possibilities of what could happen, but it’s hard for them to see past the “fog”.

    • Waow. That is so true. I am hoping though that the day would reach when a woman can be totally influenced by other abused women stories. I know the process will take time because apart from the likcs, they claim to be in love and love is a blind thing. The most we can do is try and try hard. What I’ve realize is, going to a person with a direct message is less effective for some things. Maybe we should start trying other approach methods, hoping they would work.

  3. My story is about abuse within a Gospel music group. The women within the group were mentally, verbally, and emotionally abused. However, there was one who was also physically abused. Two of us were constantly threatened to be “replaced” as Queen Vashti from the Book of Esther. The Bible was constantly used against us. My first novel “Blinded” tells the story, and how we got out and overcame the abuse and condemnation. Here’s a sample from the book:

    Submission is another matter that cannot be forced on anyone. It is something that’s supposed to be given freely. Many people misinterpret the word submission for being a doormat or a slave. God has not called anyone to be a doormat or a slave to any person
    on Earth. It says so in His word, in I Corinthians 7:23 (NKJV), which says, “You were bought at a price: do not become slaves of men.” No one should ever be walked all over, stepped on, or abused in any type of way. Many people take that word out of context. They don’t fully read what the scripture says about submission. Ephesians 5:22 (NKJV) says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” Many people leave out the words, “as to the Lord”. They just look at it as saying for wives to be submissive. This means that wives should be submissive to their husbands the same way they are submissive to the Lord. The same way that they respect and love the Lord, they should love and respect their husbands. The Lord would never abuse His authority with His loved ones. Christ never beat any of his brothers, sisters, or disciples. He never forced submission or anything else onto anyone. Christ never asked or told anyone to do anything degrading or inhumane. I don’t ever recall Christ condemning anyone for not doing what He said to do. He loved them unconditionally.

    **To read the full story, order your copy of “Blinded” from my website:
    You can also hear a Sample reading of my book on my Youtube Channel: KeedysWorld.
    If you’d like a Review Copy of my Book, please visit my website for the email address to contact me.
    Remember, life is so precious. Enjoy it to the fullest! If God can bring me out, surely He can do the same for you! He is no respecter of persons. He loves us unconditionally! Don’t ever forget that!

    Be blessed my Sisters!

    ~ K.R.Brumfield
    YT: KeedysWorld

    • Thank you so much for this and I will definitely put the link to your site on my fb page. I am glad you said like that. God gave us a choice and no matter the choice we are loved unconditionally. Submitting is respecting and nothing else. Once women begins to understand this, we will be well on our way out of abuse.

      Thank you and stay bless. 🙂

  4. You could certainly see your skills within the work you write. The world hopes for more passionate writers such as you who are not afraid to mention how they believe. Always go after your heart.

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  6. As a woman who has been abused at every level I empathise with women who are faced with the very same advise is we have to master the demon called FEAR..fear of the unknown cripples us,it stagnates us,it opens us up to the abuser,giving him power over our body,mind and spirit…its a saddened situation because so many times the end result is either 1.damage that is irreversible or 2.death…for us who are parents we are exposing our kids to a lifestyle that is damaging in every aspect,its raping them of their ability to co-exist healthy,it messes them up so badly,the damage is beyond our human reasoning,most times society do not even understand that being a part of that cycle is the contributing factor to many of our kids ignorance..PLEASE LETS COLLECTIVELY SAY “NO” TO ABUSE!!

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