Change is inevitable but yet brings so much turmoil when it comes. Especially in relationships. What people fail to understand that relationships goes through seasons and this mean changes. How you deal with the season determines what comes after. I am not saying to change who are without having a voice but with enough communication, changes can be properly made. The person who do not want to change is rather copping out and being selfish. However, a person will only change IF they want to. Do no ever try to change a person. That’s a personal desire and decision. Read more from Lisa Merlo Booth.
“I Can’t Change:” A Cop-out or a Hard Truth?
People ask me all the time if I truly believe people can change. Usually they’re asking this question about a loved one who, they’re certain, will never change. My answer to them is almost always the same: “Absolutely. I’ve seen people who I swore would never change make complete and thorough life turnarounds. I have no doubt that people can change…should they choose to do so.”
If people are capable of making lasting change, though, why don’t they? What is it that leads one person to turn their entire life around while another person swears they want to change, but they “just can’t?” Is it that some people really can’t change or is it that they really don’t want to change? Unless you’re talking about an impossible feat—like a blind man seeing—then all able-minded human beings are capable of change.
Not all people believe that they can change, however. Below are common statements I hear from people regarding their own change:
- “I am who I am and I’m not going to change.”
- “You knew I was like this when you married me. Stop trying to change me because it won’t work.”
- “I just can’t change. I’ve tried everything.”
- “It’s in my genetic make-up.”
- “I’m too old to change.”
- “Accept me for who I am. I can’t change my entire being.”
Challenge: Stop being lazy about change and instead step in and dare to better yourself. Refuse to use cop-outs such as “I’m too old,” “I am who I am,” etc. Make the choice to change or not, but don’t fool yourself into thinking you’re not changing because of forces beyond your control.