Hands Extended

I just want to tell you, whosoever you are I love you and I am here for you. My hands are extended to you with love and so if you ever feel like wanting someone to talk to, you can contact me at arisewoman@gmail.com or 1 867 347 1762.

With Gods love I will be more than happy to pray with you and share heart to heart, however I can.

God wants us to be our brothers keeper. So I’ll start by keeping you. On Tuesday everyone celebrated valentines day but where is the love thereafter? Be rest assured, God loves you the full 365 days of the year.

Have a bless day and remember my hands are extended to you.

– Candace Cudjoe

Give Over Yourself Entirely

Most of us in this life wants to be successful but only the ones who give themselves to their dreams/goals are successful. For example, as a singer, how can you excel if you do not continuously do vocal training and voice care practices? You may be able to sing yes and forever will be but unless you dedicate time and effort into learning your voice and perfecting the skills in using it, you will not excel. I am quite sure every recording artiste will agree.

The same goes for every other facet of life. Whether it is academics or not. To succeed, one must give over themselves to the cause. Never think that the person you hold in high esteem, got to what you now admire by playing games or mere luck. It took hard work, dedication, disappointments, set backs and most importantly the desire to win, to get there. 

We live in a fast pace world now and so, even in perfecting something, we expect that it should be the same. But some things will never change and thats one of them. No matter how fast pace the world gets, dedication will always be required to build an empire. A body builder cannot start training today and enter the competition the next day. They will be mocked because what will be presented, would not have been suitable and worthy of such a competition. The same goes for you and I. 

Therefore, I take this time to enlighten or remind you, as I would have already reminded myself, that it takes time and dedication to win and this can only be achieved when we give over ourselves to the craft.

Biblical view: Do not neglect the gift that is in you, which was given to you by prophecy with the laying on of the hands of the eldership. Meditate on these things; give yourself entirely to them, that your progress may be evident to all.

I Timothy 4:14‭-‬15 NKJV

How I Was Made

Hello wordpress family? Hope you all have been doing great. Its been a while since I came to this place where I find freedom in self-expression. I guess you can say, it was another hiatus for another major lesson or learning of lessonS in my life.


If some of you may recall, in times past I wrote about overcoming certain challenges. One of which I did say was thoroughly dealt with, only to realize I was at it again. This was the struggle of self image. As for anyone going through a process, I was faced with  “cursing” those demons at random occasions. For a while, all things went well and then it reared its heads again. It wasn’t something I battled with often as until recently. For some weird reason, a lot of the things I thought was dead was brought back to life. For which I take responsibility because that could have only happened if they were fed.

However, I thank God for his word. The word which always and I mean always comes to my (or anyone else in need) aid. As I walked through the busy wet streets of our nations capital, I began to speak to myself (internally that is). My thoughts made me chuckle a bit. You see, I realized that my torment came because of the image I had in my head. For some it may be strange but I am quite sure there will be those who understand. Let me explain.

I am 6″1′ and as was recently described, of an athletic built. My body is more on the lean side but in my head I wanted some thickness but not too much. So I saw my body as “slick”. That’s slim and thick….lol. That however proved to be utter madness because when I looked in the mirror I didn’t see what I had in my head. 😂😂 I just have to laugh but it’s not funny at all.

This kind of thing in the life of a Christian person is no laughing matter. This is exactly what the enemy wants and how he wins in the war of the mind. The word of God says that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Everything God made was good and that includes me. I was and I AM good. With my mind on these frivolous matters, how could I have an effective prayer life (emphasis added) or life in general. Yes I prayed, read and communed with God and saw his hand at work in my life. But the true effectiveness ( higher level) of the Christian walk as well as freely progressing in life, could not  have been experienced in a mind that is not sound. A mind that is totally against God’s word. For his word said he gave me a SOUND MIND. My mind however was not sound and that kind of mind keeps one stagnated.

As I made my way back to my place of work, I began to smile because there and then, as I saw my reflection in one of the glass buildings, I said ” This is who I am. This is how I was made. Therefore I will take care of THIS (tall, strong athletic) temple”. It felt good to know that I knew who I was. Or rather to reaffirm it.

There can only be one me and I must fully endorse who I am and who God created me to be. Don’t turn a blind eye to your unique beauty snd strength. Tap into it and walk out in your authentic being. Let the mind of Christ be in you and face the world with confidence, for “faith is confidence” – Joyce Meyer

– Candace Cujoe

I Wonder.

The bible says the heart of man is desperately wicked and from the look of things, it seems to be growing worst. As I read the undermentioned verses, my heart broke. I wondered if I was hurting the heart of God all over again. Was he regretting my creation? What is my life saying to God? Am I pleasing in his sight? Does he smile when he looks at me”? And the list of questions lingers on, with it all boiling down to, is God pleased with me.

The Lord saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination and intention of all human thinking was only evil continually. And the Lord regretted that He had made man on the earth, and He was grieved at heart. So the Lord said, I will destroy, blot out, and wipe away mankind, whom I have created from the face of the ground–not only man, [but] the beasts and the creeping things and the birds of the air–for it grieves Me and makes Me regretful that I have made them.
Genesis 6:5-7 AMP


Yesterday I had a moment of outburst. A situation got me so angry that I had to express how I was feeling. No, I did not use expletives but now reflecting, if I did, there would not have been much of a difference. That’s how bad the outburst was. Thinking about it, I feel horrible. What was I thinking? Where was my self-control? Am I not a Christian? If not for God, I would have been condemning myself. The outburst was that bad.

However, in my heart of repentance, I saw a greater need for more of God. Without him, it is obvious that I can be just as the ungodly man. You know the ones we like to turn up our noses at? We can all be like them if not for the love of Christ. I know it’s the Holy Spirit that convicted my heart and made me see my wrong. How many of us sees our wrongs though? Are we wrong and strong? Or even right but wrong and strong. Don’t understand? Let me explain.

The situation I over expatiated about, was something that I was in rights for confronting. However, the manner in which I dealt with it, made me wrong and boy in my wrongness was I head-strong. So you see, you can be RIGHT, yet wrong and strong. More than the person/s involved who may be hurt, how does God feel when we react to situations? Is he satisfied or hurt to a point of regret. You may say regret is a bit extreme but with so many ungodly people in this world, it’s possible. Why add to the “pot”? Why can’t we be different and make the heart of God smile.

Yes I know, we are all a work in progress but when you see signs of the flesh, you NEED to get on that altar of sacrifice. For the very same God said, no flesh can glory in his presence. I sure don’t want to make the heart of God sad, mad, angry or even regretful and so should you not.

We may struggle with certain characteristics but we are mandated to be Christ-like. That means our issues must be dealt with , buried and never brought to life again. So ponder on it. Ask yourself the same questions I did and see if you are soothing the heart of God or slowly disintegrating it.


Thinking Out Loud


Where would it take me? No one has the answer  to that question but myself, for it is only I who knows exactly how my life is being lived. This question is applicable to many facets of life but this morning I choose to touch on one a particular aspect.

The life I lead, where it is leading me? To heaven or hell? Closer to God or further away? To depression or to peace? To solutions or more problems? Again, these I do have answers for and what follows is my approach to their answers. Should my answers be positive (bless the Lord) and I will continue to build my relationship with Christ. However, should it be negative (hmmm), then I got some work to do. Sounds like a lot  but it’s actually simple .  I have to make up my mind to surrender all and do things that will build me spiritually. Just as we need daily physical food, likewise the spiritual.

Many says, “as I look at things in the world today, I can see signs of the time, Jesus is coming soon, get your life right” and (yes this is true) but my friend, we should be bent on getting our lives right even if the world was a better place. It should not be eye-servant service but relentless service because of who he (God) is.

I can tell you from my life experience, God really did a work in me. Facebook recently started sharing memories post and when I saw some of those memories, I had to say thank you Father for saving me.  A few years ago my life was messed up but today I stand with my feet in a different place. Though this is so, there is downside to which I have noticed many persons are struggling with. It’s called, “the busyness of life”.

The more we do, is the more we seem to find to do and the less we find time to pray or read the word. After a long day at work, we may have other group commitments or even a family to care of. Pick the kids up from school, go to meetings, then the grocery store, hustle home, prepare for the next day, maybe wash clothes…… should I go on? By the time we lay down, before we can say God, we are knocked out. The constant flow of this occurrence, leaves one weak. Easy target for the enemy. Easy phase to sin (in some cases fall away from God entirely ) which ultimately leads to hell. It’s funny that the road to hell starts with subtle set backs. Things we don’t even notice. It’s seems harder to do right and effortless to do wrong.

I am just thinking out loud as I measure the priorities in my life. We can get so caught up, we forget the one who gave us the ability to be “caught up”. Be admonished just as I am to MAKE TIME FOR GOD. He daily makes time for us (eg. by provision of oxygen ). Make him the center of your life. Seek ye first the kingdom of God and it’s righteousness and all these things shall be added to you. That’s the word. God loves when we worship and revere him. A plea to all (myself included ), make time for God. He is waiting on us.

There is a way which seems right to a man and appears straight before him, but at the end of it is the way of death.
Proverbs 14:12 AMP

The Return (What I Eventually Saw)

When our heads are hung deep into the pity party session, we hardly find time to see the good around us. This was me just a few days ago. As soon as I got this epiphany, it became mandatory to hit my blog.


For those my ardent readers, you all would know about my processing (as I now call it)for the past two years. The downs and semi ups and downs and downs and downs (in a nutshell ). I just need to reiterate, that I felt like loosing it BUT GOD. For most of the time, I thought of myself, since I could not understand why I was in such a situation. I am child of God for crying out loud, what was happening. (Again, my processing). However, amidst it all, God always showed me something beautiful. The “glory” of the view would be short lived, since it was not what I wanted to see but I tarried and I am still here, much better than before.

In realizing wondering and complaining wasn’t helping the situation, I decided to channel my thoughts differently  (which I believe was Holy Spirit inspired). “Why not help others”, I thought, even though my treasure box was almost empty. With this, I decided to have a charity drive until Christmas and started collecting food items and clothing. I went to my wardrobe and picked out pieces of clothing I would have still worn, to give away (SIDE NB: When giving,  please give your best).

What I didn’t realize is, my thought of unselfishness was all God wanted. As soon as my eyes came off of me and why am I here, and what did I do and why and why and why, God did something amazing.


My aunt came to support me at an event recently and brought along a BIG BAG of fancy clothing for me. I said thanks  (was grateful ) and moved along. Today though, my eyes really opened. The clothing I recieved was given to me before I even gave. My groceries was somehow replenished, not denting my finances, as it usually do. Isn’t God amazing,WHEN WE DO RIGHT BY HIM.

We all go through trials but I have learnt that the worst thing we can do is have a pity party or become so engrossed in self that we forget the needs of others. Those families which will be blessed are in more need than I am. Blessing the hearts of others is an integral part of the Christian walk and sometimes it’s good to bless even before you are blessed. Even when your pocket is almost dry, should you be asked for money, why not split what you have? It sounds crazy but God honors such a heart because it shows that you are not about self but about love.

I was always a giver but that’s when I had to give. God tested me in my dry season and though it took a while to realize, I am glad I did. It’s good to be an all time Christian. Be blessed and be a blessing. Don’t give for the return but I promise there will be one when you give.


Daily Digest: “Unpresss” The Snooze Button


It Starts With Me Not Waiting

For most, the thought of working hard is something we are committed to doing someday, but right now it’s not a priority. We think that when we get that dream job, that leadership position, that amount of money, then we will work hard, read the Bible more, and be generous. However, being the person God has called you to be in the future starts with you right now. Stop pressing the snooze button on your life; if you wait for tomorrow, tomorrow may never come. God wants to start working in and through your life starting now.

Rather than wait for tomorrow, we must allow God access to our lives today. There are things you can do starting today that the future version of yourself will thank you for.

• In your journal, write down what type of person/Christian/leader/husband/wife/employee that you want to be in the future. Now ask yourself, if you continue in the way you are going, will you eventually become that person?

• What needs to change and what daily disciplines do you need to introduce in order to become all that God has called you to be, and do all that God has called you to do?

Don’t use your age as an excuse to keep hitting the snooze button on your life. Train hard while you’re young so that when you’re older you can say with Paul, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith” (2 Timothy 4:7).

Reference Verses
1 Timothy 4: 11 – 16
James 4: 13 – 17
Luke 9: 57 – 62
2 Timothy 4:7

– It Starts With Me