Pillow Talk: When The Feeling Is Lost..

Often times we move when the feeling of excitement is burning within us. You hear people complain about how much they have fallen from the things they use to do. Something I know all so well and have come to realize that its because we live based on feelings. However when the feeling is gone, what then? What about the things you wanted to do? Were they emotional escapades?


If we should live our lives based on feelings, we would never accomplish what we set out to do, much more what God has for us to do. Victory comes when we still persevere after the feeling of “I will do this” has gone.

These thoughts bombarded me as I laid on my bed thinking about my prayer life. It is something that I have had better days in and as I pondered on what happen, I realized it dwindled because of feelings. That however, should not have affected my prayer life. You see, prayer is an in and out of season thing. When you feel to and not to but often times we give in to the “not now but later” feeling and that later turns into tomorrow and the next day and before you know it, it’s an entire week with no solid form of prayer. This tends to leave one very weak, miserable and vulnerable to sin (any type).

God knows why he said to pray without ceasing. The minute we cease we create a dark portal for ourselves. Prayer requires consistency. Consistency with Christ will breathe consistency for anything else. I am just reminding you  (and this goes for anything ), after the feeling would have left you, please know in order to succeed you need to push through. Through the pain, the downs, the laziness and every obstacle to get to the other side. Keep moving even when you feel like standing. Never plant your feet in a stagnant place.

– Candace Cudjoe


Pillow Talk: Love and Money


Love is better than money

Loving money and loving people are actually diametrically opposite forces. If you love money, basically you are just loving yourself, because you crave the power and pleasures and comforts that money brings. When you love other people, you are actually choosing to spend yourself, your energy and time, to make someone else’s life better. You are giving rather than taking.

At one time or another we have all believed that acquiring money would bring happiness. It never does. The opposite is true: “Better a meal of vegetables where there is love than a fattened calf with hatred” (Proverbs 15:17). You will find the greatest satisfactions in your life in the ways in which you have served other people’s needs. It’s as though they have the keys to your happiness.

When we spend our first energy tending our relationships, including our relationship with God, all of our needs will be met. If you spend your life chasing money, you will end up with nothing. There are no checkbooks in coffins. But you can take the people with you to heaven.

In Christ, love can survive the grave.

Reference Verse
– Proverbs 15:17

Pillow Talk: It Starts With Me Inviting Them


Because Jesus promised to build His Church and has given us the Holy Spirit to empower us, we can have confidence and boldness when inviting people to church!

Most people would not attend a party they aren’t invited to. This applies to church too. While we know that the doors are always open and everyone is invited, most of the time people won’t feel comfortable coming unless someone has invited them. This is where we play our part. People hear the gospel and encounter Jesus at church, and because of this, evangelism starts with me inviting them!

We interact with hundreds of different people every week. The person who serves you at a restaurant, your teachers, your classmates, and your family all need Jesus. Inviting the person wrapping our burrito can be an uncomfortable moment for all involved, but when we invite people to church we are giving them an opportunity to hear and respond to the message of Jesus because church is a place where Jesus is celebrated and the gospel is preached. You don’t need a masters in theology, you simply need to be bold enough to let them know they are invited!

Imagine whose salvation is on the other side of an invitation from you? You might be afraid of them turning you down, but that’s OK. You have nothing to lose and they have everything to gain – it’s worth the ask!

• In your journal, write down three names of people you will invite to church the next time you see them.

• Take a few minutes right now and ask Jesus to give you the boldness to invite these people to church. Also ask Him to soften their hearts so that when they hear the message of Jesus they would be saved.

Reference Verses
– Matthew 16: 13-20
– Acts 1: 1 – 11

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Pillow Talk: Family


It Starts With Me Loving My Family

Want your family to love Jesus like you do? Then it starts with you loving your family.

Most people could name at least one person in their family who does not have a relationship with Jesus (if not more). Whether you are the first person in your family to believe in Jesus, or one among many, we each have an opportunity to show the love of Jesus to our family members, including our crazy Aunt Thelma.

As Christians, we are called “ambassadors for Christ” (2 Corinthians 5:20). This means that we are representatives of Jesus to our school friends, our sport teams, our twitter followers, and to our families. We cannot excuse ourselves from the great task of showing our family the love and kindness that Jesus has shown us. Our moms, dads, brothers, sisters, and crazy aunties need Jesus just as much as we do. You have a great opportunity and responsibility to show your family not only how much Jesus loves them, but also how much Jesus has changed your life.

• Using a journal, be honest and write down how you could be a better representative of Jesus to your family.

It won’t always be easy, but in every situation and conversation you can choose to be an ambassador for Christ and show your family the same love, grace, forgiveness, and mercy that He has shown you. While they may never cross paths with another Jesus follower, God has put YOU in their world not by accident, but on purpose, with a purpose and for a purpose.

Take up the challenge of representing Christ to your family today!

• Pray for opportunities to show your family the love of Jesus and pray for patience and compassion to continue loving them as Jesus does.

Reference Verses
– Matthew 5: 13 – 16
– Ephesians 6: 1 – 4
– 2 Corinthians 5 : 20

– It Starts With Me

Pillow Talk: It Starts With Me Loving Jesus First


You don’t get to have a godly relationship without first being godly yourself. Instead of pursuing a relationship, spend your time pursuing Jesus. He’ll take care of the rest.

Even as a middle schooler, you may have thought about eventually getting married. While you probably picture a happy, fun, romantic life as a married man or woman, that doesn’t just happen overnight. It starts with me, and it starts with me loving Jesus more than I could possibly love another human.

Many of us think that we have gaps that can only be filled by our soulmate. The truth is that no matter how “perfect” the person you end up with may be, it still won’t be enough. If you want to have dating relationships that are successful in the eyes of Jesus, you have to seek Him, ask what He wants for you, and listen to what He thinks about dating. It starts with you submitting to Jesus. Only after you’ve gotten to the point where Jesus is your everything will you be whole enough to make a good wife or husband for someone else.

So don’t wait until you’ve met that person that you want to be with. Don’t wait until college is over to be more selective about who you date. Put Jesus first now and trust Him to bring about the right person at the right time. By doing this, you’ll get His best for you and avoid a lot of unnecessary heartache.

• Think about your current relationship(s). Is there anything about them that hurts your relationship with Jesus? What could you do practically to put Jesus first?

• The Bible makes it clear that Jesus’ highest priority for you is to love Him. Do you live like He is your highest priority? Spend time journaling through where you are at in your relationship with Him. He can handle the truth!

– It Starts With Me

Pillow Talk: It Starts With Me Taking Responsibility

Earlier on tonight, I had a conversation with a very dear friend about what I felt contributed to the way I respond to things sometimes. How ironic it was that I did exactly what I am about to share. Though I said, they (people) were not entirely to blame since I am responsible for myself, somehow I still manage to squeeze the “blamed” in. As I read tonight’s piece, I was left dumbfounded because it felt as though God was responding to my former conversation. As I read this piece, I was totally blown away by the biblical encouragement  and proof that the blame game is so 1960’s.

We are ALL responsible for our decisions. Yes, hurt would have past our way but then comes the question,”So what”? Will you allow hurt from others to stop you from walking into destiny. I would think not. Then, you are only left to do one thing and that is, take responsibility. Enjoy!


It Starts With Me Taking Responsibility

If you want to do all that God has called you to do so that He gets the glory and you get the joy, then it starts with you taking responsibility for your life.

There comes a point in time when you have to man (or woman) up and take responsibility for your own life. That time is now. No more can you blame your parents, your teachers, or lack of opportunities, for who you are or who you are becoming. The Bible tells us that “we are more than conquerors” through Christ, which doesn’t leave much room for excuses (Romans 8:37). Jesus said it, so we better believe it!

Too often people allow the past circumstances to determine the future outcome. The only power that your past has over your future is the power that you give it. God has a great plan for your future so quit making excuses as to why or how you can’t get there. Take responsibility for the person you are today and trust that God will provide you with all you need to become the person He is calling you to be. Jesus doesn’t agree with our excuses nor does He affirm us when we play the blame game. As He said to Paul, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9). Your weaknesses are simply opportunities for Jesus to reveal His grace in your life.

• Do you recognize any situation, limitation, or person in your life who you’re blaming for how things have turned out for you? Instead, choose to take responsibility for your life and trust that Jesus will turn any weakness into a strength for His glory and for your joy.

“…I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us” (Philippians 3:13-14).

– It Starts With Me

Pillow Talk: It Starts With Me Playing My Part

This is a very important matter. The church, unfortunately has created stratas as to what is more important than the other, that people even tries hard to perfect things they are not good at, with the hope of being “churchily” elevated. We are ALL important in the Kingdom of God. Therefore it doesn’t matter what you do, you play a very important role; one that cannot be done without.  Enjoy.


As Christians, the church is not just a building we spend a few hours at every week. We are the church and we each have a part to play in it. Being able to enjoy the community that church offers us starts with each of us playing our part.

The Church has existed for 2,000 years and spans across the entire world. It is “built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Christ Jesus himself being the cornerstone” (Ephesians 2:20). The Church is ‘The Body Of Christ’ – the gathering of believers who are on mission to fulfill the Great Commission.

As a believer you and the church you attend are a part of the large scale Church – the Body of Christ. Because the whole body is made up of many different parts, there is a specific part you play and contribution you can make to the body. Whether it is speaking on stage, greeting at the door, serving coffee, or giving generously, everyone’s contribution makes the whole body grow and be able to continue Jesus’ work on Earth.

• If you simply attend church without playing a part, we encourage you to think of an area you would like to serve at and then get involved!

The part you play in contributing to the Body of Christ is significant. You wouldn’t choose to do without any of your body parts and neither would Jesus or His Church choose to do without you!

• In Ephesians 4:16 Paul wrote, “He makes the whole body fit together perfectly. As each part does its own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love.” Specifically, what part do you play in church, or what interests you? In your journal, write it out.

References: 1 Corinthians 12: 12 – 27
                        1 Peter 4: 8 – 11
                        Ephesians 2 : 20
                        Ephesians 4 : 16

– It Starts With Me