Who Should Be Blamed?

Blaming someone is very easy, once we have been hurt in a situation. We tend to magnify the wrongs handed to us. Everything seems to look like the wall of China, hence we begin to build up bitterness and extreme anger towards the other person or persons we feel are responsible (or should take responsibility) for what was done. There is no doubt that we hurt each other. No one person can say, they have never hurt another human being for that would be untrue. The impact of some hurts excedes others but just as sin is sin (size not mattering), hurt is also hurt.
As I stood by the door of my apartment recently, I started to reflect on some grueling situations which caused me to lash out against a group of people, particularly one person. I was furious about the way I was treated. To an extent I was taking responibility for my actions (or so I thought) because I would have said, “I know I am not perfect and I messed up sometines BUT it was my RESPONSE to the way I was treated” (Read that again). I stood up strong on that statement because it gave me a sense of peace that though I was imperfect, I was in the right. That my friend, is not taking responsibility. The blame was still being handed over to the offenders. Seeing that my desire is to live a complete life pleasing to God, he would have only allowed me to reach so far with that kind of thinking. As I looked up into the beautiful sky that morning, the Holy Spirit began to speak to me and clear as day I heard,

“Even though you were wronged, you were responsible for your responses”

WAOW! What a bittersweet moment because I was happy to hear from God but I was also being nicely scolded. That’s when it dawned on me that we enjoy blaming others, when we too have a major part to play. Our responses in situations should never be earthly based or influenced. It should always be heavenly based. Romans 12 : 1 says,

I APPEAL to you therefore, brethren, and beg of you in view of [all] the mercies of God, to make a decisive dedication of your bodies [presenting all your members and faculties] as a living sacrifice, holy (devoted, consecrated) and well pleasing to God, which is your reasonable (rational, intelligent) service and spiritual worship – Romans 12:1 AMPC

When this verse is highlighted we always think about the physical aspect (sexual immorality etc). However, if you look at this version of the verse, it says “members and faculties”. That means everything. The way we move, the things we do and even the way we think (which is where responses are initiated); in the mind. Therefore, coming into alignment of the word, our responses should be heaven based. I know I know, “you dont know how they hurt me, you have no idea what they have done”…. these thoughts must be subdued under Christ. The earlier part of the verse says, that we need to make a “decisive dedication of our bodies”. That means, we are to completely commit (surrender) to God, so that even in the midst of pain, we should reflect Christ. It then comes down to this, we are the ones to blame for our responses in situations. No one made you do it but you. Take responsibility, repent and move on in Christ. Our goal is not to please man but to please God.

– Candace Cudjoe


Don’t Disturb Meh…….. Na. I’ll Love You

So here am I on work, initially feeling myself. I was happy and ready to function. Then came in a co-worker with a sulky disposition and boy she was “lighting” up the atmosphere with her persona.


Within seconds I felt a negative feeling wanting to consume me. My countenance was screaming, “don’t talk to me”. Trust me I know what my face looked like. Why though? Why was I conformed to this? Honestly I can’t say but it didn’t last long. I stripped myself of my lab coat, hustled to the washroom and prayerfully recalibrated. Oh the joy I felt when walking back to the lab.

It is now a couple hours after this happened and I am please to say, my coworker is in better spirits. She came around.

What am I getting at? Simply, Don’t be swayed by people’s emotions. Sometimes what they need is a little bit of your bubbly spirit to get them through the day. What could have transpired if I communicated with her as grumpy as she was with me. HAVOC. TOTAL MAYHEM. Thank God for his wisdom, I was able to handle this with ease and a pleasant smile. Now things are in order. Don’t let someone’s misery make you miserable. Take charge of the situation and let your gracious behaviour be an example and fall over to others.

I’m out….. Back to work.

Daily Digest: The All Time Representative

Doing everything “as a representative of the Lord Jesus” means bringing honor to Christ in every aspect and activity of daily living. As a Christian, you represent Christ at all times-wherever you go and whatever you say. What impression do people have of Christ when they see or talk with you? What changes would you make in your life in order to honor Christ?


Col.3.17.kjv And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.

Father I thank you for yet another day. Today I seek your wisdom for everyday living. I ask that you help me to walk according to your precepts, not just for me but for the building up of the Kingdom of God. Let me be an example for the world to see. Let my life be a vessel that can be used to draw men to you and I thank you for answering this prayer, in Jesus name. Amen.

Daily Digest: Do Not Accept Judgement; Do not Judge.


Paul told the Colossian Christians not to let others criticize their diet or their religious ceremonies. Instead of outward observance, believers should focus on faith in Christ alone. Our worship, traditions, and ceremonies can help bring us close to God, but we should never criticize fellow Christians whose traditions and ceremonies differ from ours. More important than how we worship is that we worship Christ. Don’t let anyone judge you. You are responsible to Christ.

Reference: Colossians 2: 16 – 17

Father thank you for this day. I pray for your love to be so enriched in me, that I be my brothers keeper and not his beater. Just as you commanded,  help me to bear up each other in love, rather than look on to criticize my brethren in Christ. I pray for this kind of heart to be placed in all who profress Christ and do thank you for answering this prayer. In Jesus name. Amen

One of those days…

We’ve all had those days but cheer up my brother and sister.

Living With Fulfillment

Ever have one of those days where nothing seems to go right and the first event seems to only be the first in a long list of domino- effect happenings that continue throughout the day? By the end of the day you’re rethinking everything in life and jumping to the worst possible conclusion and rethinking decisions, doubting yourself and those around you or just plain tired, grumpy and irritable?

We’ve all had these days to one extreme or another but I challenge you that when a day like this comes, and they will, don’t give up. God has so much grace; and it’s sufficient no matter what the trials of the day bring.

Philippians 4:4-6 sais, “Rejoice in the Lord always! Again I will say, ‘Rejoice!’ In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.”

This means me…

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I Dare You To Move

I had to re-encourage myself to move.

Arise Woman

This is going to be short but sweet.

All I’ve ever wrote about since I started blogging, were things that women go through, highlighting my personal experiences to help drive the point home. I know that in this world of different people, ideas and opinion on the blog would be different but someone would be touched and inspired. Everyday I write, with the knowledge that I can see something in the comments bar that will kick me to the curb. Try to shake my grounds and belittle me and I did. The mind bugging part of it, is when the words sounds familiar and right at home. You know, like it’s coming from someone I know. I hope not….lol. Then I ask myself what do I do, if it is? You know, getting an extremely harsh critique from strangers will always be better than feeling like you are being attacked in your space or…

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